My wife knows I’m transgender. And our transgender marriage is becoming something we’re learning together. Recently, she suggested a kind of ‘transgender exposure therapy’ where I get to be Michelle more often after the kids are asleep. It felt like a thoughtful way to bring Michelle into our everyday life, and I was honestly grateful she wanted to try it.
Finding Stability in Our Transgender Marriage
We eased into the plan slowly. At first, we still drifted into our own separate corners of the house. She had events to prepare for. I had projects to finish. It wasn’t avoidance. It was just life, busy and full and normal.
Once life slowed back to normal, we were in a better place to actually try this together.
The Moment Everything Changed
A few nights ago, we found out there was a new season of The Great British Baking Show. It’s one of our comfort shows, something we love sharing together. This time, though, we watched it while I was Michelle. For the first time, our transgender marriage felt like it was taking a real step forward instead of hovering in place.
As we sat together, I felt seen in a way I hadn’t felt since coming out. She didn’t treat me like someone different. She treated me the same way she always has. Everything felt natural, familiar, and normal.
Why It Mattered So Much
It might have looked like “just watching TV,” but it was much more than that. I could feel her openness. I could feel understanding growing between us. Nothing felt strange or forced. It felt like our relationship settling into a new version of itself, gently and naturally.
For months, there had been a subtle distance. Nothing dramatic, just a shift as we both tried to adjust. This moment felt like something real finally clicking into place.
Looking Ahead at Our Transgender Marriage
I’m not expecting everything to change overnight. Acceptance takes time, and we’re finding our pace together. Even so, this felt like an important step for our transgender marriage. It gave me hope that more of these small, meaningful moments will keep showing up as we move forward.
Have You Had a Moment Like This?
If you’re in a relationship and navigating gender identity, I’d love to hear about the tiny breakthroughs that meant something to you. Have you had a moment that felt small on the outside but huge on the inside?
6 Comments
Lynn Jones · November 30, 2025 at 5:54 am
If I may, sounds like you’re both making progress in your relationship. I can’t quite remember who said ‘communication is key’ but it seems like that’s happening given your comments on the situation.
To answer your question, I would say it was a gradual change of small steps: talking about things, taking an interest in each other’s world, etc.
One moment that has stayed with me was when I was looking at a set of ladies’ watches, and Mrs J looked, listened, and then helped pick one out. It’s not the watch that counts – although it’s a fantastic aide memoir – but the kindness and acceptance that took us there.
Michelle · December 1, 2025 at 8:12 am
It really has been a series of small steps, and seeing them stack up has been reassuring for both of us. I love the moment you shared about the watch. It’s those tiny, unexpected gestures that hit the deepest, isn’t it?
Charlotte Sparkle · December 1, 2025 at 11:57 am
Michelle, I’m so happy to hear that things are slowly moving forward for you and your wife. That evening you described, being able to relax as Michelle, simply watching a show you both love, felt so tender and meaningful. Those quiet moments where everything just fits are often the ones that matter the most. It made me smile to picture you both settling into something that feels natural and shared again.
And since you asked about little breakthroughs, I wanted to share one of mine. My wife recently told me she’s fully on board with me microdosing if it helps me feel more at ease with myself. It might look like a small gesture from the outside, but to me it felt enormous, a sign that she sees me, supports me, and wants to walk this path alongside me. It was one of those moments that gives you hope and makes the future feel a bit more possible.
Thank you for sharing your story so openly. These glimpses into your journey really resonate, and it means a lot to be able to share these tiny-but-huge steps together.
Lotte x
Michelle · December 1, 2025 at 12:35 pm
It really does feel like we’re both hitting these little heart-warming milestones at the same time. Your wife supporting you with microdosing? That’s HUGE. Those moments where they show us they’re really trying just makes everything feel so good. I’m so happy for you. Yay for both of us!
Deeanna Williams · December 3, 2025 at 5:02 pm
I’m delighted that this small but significant breakthrough has happened in your relationship. And I hope that you can have a lot more moments like this.
Dee xx
Michelle · December 4, 2025 at 11:04 am
Thank you, Dee. 💜 These little breakthroughs really do mean a lot right now. And hearing your encouragement is more meaningful than you know. I’m hoping we get to stack up plenty more moments like this.