Is Transvestite Still Appropriate? My Personal Perspective
Is transvestite still appropriate today? Here's why I use “crossdresser” instead and what the word transvestite gets wrong about gender expression.

I’m Michelle. I spent years stuck between genders and labels—crossdresser, sissy, trans, wife, partner, kinkster, girl? I didn’t know what to call myself, and for a long time, I thought I had to pick just one.
But the truth was, I didn’t fully fit into any of them.
I was stuck Between Genders. Pulled in different directions, wanting things that didn’t always make sense together. And for a while, I thought that meant something was wrong with me.
Between Genders is the messy, beautiful result of working through that.
It started as a journal—just me trying to make sense of my own identity. But it’s grown into something bigger: a space for anyone questioning their gender, exploring their kink, or trying to stay connected to someone they love while figuring it all out.
It’s part guidebook, part emotional spiral, part “holy shit I can’t believe I’m saying this out loud.”
I write to understand myself—and to help you feel less alone while you figure yourself out too.
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